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Social Circle Mastery

I was invited to attend Love Systems Social Circle Mastery Seminar this weekend. So, obviously, first thing I want to say is thank you to Mr. M and the guys at Love Systems for that. Grin

As far as I am aware, the event was a one-off that was put on for the purposes of recording a DVD. As I understand it, the five hours, or so of material that I witnessed will be edited down to fit on the DVD, so may not include everything I mention here. I’m afraid I don’t have any more information on the product, although I’d imagine that when it is released it will be mentioned on the Love Systems web site.

There were additional parts of the seminar, including a full day on Inner Game, which I wasn’t able attend.

Social Circle Mastery is a concept devised by Mr. M and Braddock. It was presented by Braddock as a non-interactive powerpoint/talk presentation. Obviously this is great for the video but a bit of a wasted opportunity for audience members as we were unable to ask questions during the filming. However, Mr M and Braddock made up for this by taking questions during the breaks and with plenty of interactive informal content off-camera at the end.

I thought that Braddock had an excellent presenting style – relatively formal (on camera) and with good clear explanations of the concepts. The material was nicely organised, making it easy to understand. The material included lots of “new” concepts. Or, at least, lots of new names for concepts. For example, “Social Trees and Forests”, “Thin Slicing” and “Dynamite Theory”. I quite liked this as it made things a lot easier to remember.

Without going into too much detail, the model presented breaks down into three parts: Building Your Social Circle; Managing Your Circle; and Picking Up In Your Social Circle. To really use this material properly having reasonably good game is a prerequisite. Most of what was covered related to the model, rather than specifics of “game”.

Things covered included, why you might want to do Social Circle game; Mindsets of SC game; Different kinds of “social connector”; how to attract the right people for your social circle; climbing your “social trees”; solidifying your social connections (Creating a spider web); and how social circle game changes according to how near or far the woman is from the centre of your social circle.

Braddock finished with an Action Plan for the next six months to build one’s social circle.

After that, filming finished and the presentation switched to informal mode with Mr M covering the Relationship Model:

(Independent Value + Relationship Value) supported by Good Emotions = Total Relationship Value

I was thoroughly impressed with the seminar content. The material has clearly been very well thought out and organised. A lot of it initially felt like things I already knew but I think the act of codifying the concepts into a model gave me a lot of new insights.

I feel that this seminar could be useful for people in all sorts of situations. Having a great social circle is a massive asset in many areas, other than PU – business and career being an obvious one.

If you are still struggling with basic game, then I suspect the finished product may not be for you. It’s not that it is bad – quite the opposite – just that there is very little “game” content in there. The material is highly focused on the Social Circle Mastery ideas. Otherwise, if the DVD comes out as well as the live seminar, and there’s no reason why it shouldn’t, then I think this will be an excellent product.

Inner Game

I’m always skeptical about new things. I consider myself an open minded person and I am always open to reason and being persuaded on things, but I am always cautious about whether something will benefit me or not.

So when I first heard about Inner Game, I approached with skepticism. Did I really need this? Could it really help me?

And then I heard more about it. I kept seeing these amazing reviews popping up. People starting telling me how much it changed their lives. The final nail in the coffin was a one-hour conversation I had with Mr M where he told me about the boundaries part of the seminar. I realised at this point that I needed to hear what these guys had to say on it.

I have just moved to Stockholm and have been here only a few weeks. I flew back to London just to take this course – I didn’t know when I would next be able to and I couldn’t waste this opportunity, even though it was the middle of my hectic move.

The course blew me away. A lot of stuff that Braddock and Mr M said resonated with me deeply, slotting into places things that I kinda felt for a while, but couldn’t fully understand or make explicit.

The biggest learning for me was about boundaries. It’s been mentioned here a few times already, but between Braddock and Mr M, there’s no shortage of integrity. These are guys that know what they will put up with from women and friends and family in their lives and what they will not put up with.

Learning how to establish boundaries and how to enforce them has already been a key learning for me over the last year (being something I personally realised I needed to work on). I got the final pieces of the puzzle I had been looking for from the Inner Game seminar. It was like it all just “clicked.”

Guys, I can’t stress to you how important this stuff is to dating and relationships. This applies to lovers, friends and family. Do you ever feel that sting in your belly when you know you’ve been hard done by by someone, or you feel like you’re not being treated the way you want, or that you’re not getting what you want out of a relationship? Here you will find the tools to correct all those issues.

There were a bunch of other topics that were great to hear: male sexuality, approach anxiety, and passion and purpose amongst others. The best thing about it is that it’s ALL practical stuff.

A lot of so-called “inner game” specialists teach you a bunch of airy fairy cosmic theories that don’t so much help you as fuel a delusional over positive belief in yourself. But what these guys teach is discrete, practical tip to “get your head right,” as well as the actions you take in your life to get what you want.

It’s seminars like these, and knowing two people that understand so much about the world, that make me proud to work besides them at Love Systems. I really believe there is no other community in the world that is making breakthroughs like this in social dynamics.

I’m not sure if Braddock and Mr M are planning to release the DVD footage at some point (this particular event was filmed – with the consent of all who attended), but if they do and you can’t attend the seminar, I highly recommend you see the DVDs at least. There’s no substitute for being there in person and being able to ask all the questions you want (you will hearing me asking a LOT in the footage! haha), but if you can’t make a seminar, get a hold of this footage for sure.